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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a South Asian, I am sympathetic to *some* of what OP is describing. Many things are difficult very different. I myself would not be cooking in OPs situation.[b] I would however be eating homemade food and enjoying not having to cook.[/b]
 OP, you will not get sick from food cooked with unfiltered water such as roti or rice - heat kills pathogens in the water. If you have a gluten allergy, eat rice. [b]Also your kids are half Bengali- they should learn to eat and maybe love the food. [/b]I understand young children are picky, and you haven’t cooked Bengali food for them in the US, but this is how you teach children - it is part of who they are. I would prioritize regularly going to south Asian restaurants when you return to the US so they (and you) gain familiarity with the cuisine. You have chosen your spouse - you don’t have to love it, but food is part of culture, and you should find food you like enough to be able to manage short term. My children love paranthas (which they eat plain), rice and fish or chicken curry.
Re the shower- your ILs sound very accommodating. I imagine water is in short supply, and you are likely using a lot. You may not be used to bucket baths, but it can be learned - it is not hard. I think you should keep future visits shorter and communicate more with your husband.
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Op isn't south asian. She doesn't enjoy south Asian food. Why are people so insistent on this? Her husband also doesn't eat it much. I like the restaurant idea but maybe her dh only eats halal meat or he likes Middle Eastern food. They probably eat biryani during holidays. I'm sure the OP's family isn't forcing him to eat American food. It's probably better his family doesn't live in the US. Most would be mad if she refused food. I'm not saying it's right or wrong but culturally that's a big no. [/quote]

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