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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This thread is explaining so much.

For the last few years I've really wondered what the deal is. So many people just do not perform BASIC social niceties. They do not nod or smile or say hello when they pass a neighbor on the street. They don't greet other parents at school. People do not introduce themselves. They do not make eye contact when they talk to you. They don't say hi to the cashier or the bus driver. They don't say "excuse me" if they bump into people on the street.

It's not every single person but it's a shocking number of people. Just like... normal social behavior. Not burdensome. I think it's honestly harder to behave this way than to just say hi to people and try to learn their names, put names with faces. I don't think of myself as a particularly social person -- I prefer spending my evenings and weekends at home or with my immediate family, I like sitting and reading alone, I don't linger to chat at school events. But I look at people, greet them, learn names.

The pretzels people are twisting themselves into justify what is basically anti-social behavior. It's okay that an 8 year old doesn't have this down yet -- I'm not mad at this girl for not saying hi. But people are comparing saying hello to someone to unwanted hugs. I'm a rape survivor and am extremely well versed in the concept of "a culture of consent." But this... is not it. You guys are just justifying being rude. That's it. The world would be nice for you and easier for everyone if we just agree to do these bare minimum things. Your social anxiety would actually decrease if you practiced doing these things and committed to making this effort.[/quote]

I agree with you completely, on all points, and you’ve put this so well. The people who keep hovering to bash the OP and justify rudeness are just absolutely irrational and desperate. Kids with anxiety (just going with this, not ‘hating’ or ‘accusing’ either girl of anything) are aided immensely by working on that issue, not by having their mommies and daddies lurk on message boards to make wild-eyed accusations of people ‘hurting’ their kids by engaging in the various acts of being human.[/quote]

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