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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Great deep dive into timeline of events!

https://rottenindenmark.org/2021/10/10/identifying-the-bad-art-friend-is-easy/[/quote]

I like this take and largely agree with him that Sonja starts out as the villain but that Dorland eventually joins her in the mud and you can’t ignore that.

I have a lot of empathy for Dorland because I experienced something somewhat similar a while back, and I cannot describe here how strong that feeling of wanting redemption/revenge is. In my case, the women who hurt me were unquestionably friends, as well as professional colleagues. What they did felt like a deep rejection of me both personally and professionally and it messed me up a lot— I still talk about this situation in therapy years later. Reading Bad Art Friend and threads like this are both triggering and cathartic. I have accepted that this will probably be something that marks me in one way or another for the rest of my life.

So I understand why Dorland went scorched earth in trying to get back at Sonja. I know that feeling of righteous rage so well I can taste it. But the difference between Dawn and I is that I ultimately didn’t go down that road. I had some private fits about it, I demanded loyalty from my closest friends (something I am now both embarrassed by and also still feel was necessary?), but that’s where it ended. I cut those women out of my life, distanced myself from anyone who might support them, and did my best to move on. It sucked! I still fantasize about them getting their comeuppance, and still sometimes check in on them online to see if karma has done any work on my behalf.

But I didn’t sue and I didn’t go public and watching what Dorland is going through now, I am glad I had the sense to move on.[/quote]

You do know that Dawn countersued, right? That Sonya sued her first. [/quote]

I’m glad that Dawn sued. The bullies wanted to keep her quiet, plagiarize her work, and ostracize her from the writing community. Bullies shouldn’t get the last say. Especially not by cheaply playing the race card.[/quote]

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