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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I hate when families feel like they have to cater to the lowest common denominator in a family. Always having to attach themselves to the weakest link. 
I wouldn't want to go on a beach vacation with that sister if I was expected to help watch her for young kids. My kids are old enough to enjoy the beach without drowning and are wonderful swimmers I don't want to have to run around looking after a four-year-old all day it's not even mine. That's why when my kids were little we planned vacations that our entire family could enjoy and where I knew I could keep the kids safe. I would never want to go on a vacation where I would need to have everyone else help me care for my own children. 
It's one thing if we're all going to a park and invite the cousins along and watch them but it's an entirely different thing to go on a vacation that is geared towards older kids and expect the entire family to watch your toddlers. [/quote]

OP here,

The thing is, I actually really love doing things with her kids.  I used to teach preschool, I'd have more kids if I could afford them.  Twice, we took beach vacations when this sister had a baby about the same age, I took her toddlers and older kids with my kids to the beach, and loved it.  All this summer, whenever I went to the pool or minigolf or whatever, I picked up this sister's kids.  I really enjoyed that, because playing minigolf with a 4 and 8 year old is fun.  Next summer, we'll probably go to the beach together, and I'll watch her kids some more.

But being stuck on an easy slope, while the slope you came to ski is right there where you can see it, and you can't be with your own children, isn't fun.  It's like going to Ruth Chris on New Years Eve.  It's an activity that is more fun when little kids aren't there.

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You don't need to invite her! The question was, "Would you be hurt?"  Most people are saying, "Yeah, I'd be hurt." All this other info is background noise. Do you care if your sister will be hurt, or not? If no, then the three of you go ahead and have fun. If you do care, then don't invite youngest sister.

If you don't care, though, then I'm not sure why you bothered to ask in the first place, unless you just assumed everyone would say, "nah, it's fine!"[/quote]

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