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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yikes.  Many angry people on here.  My DH and I and our kids (together as a family since 12ish; now older teems) live peacefully together.  I think egos need to be re-examined. Me me me me me!   [/quote]

That’s not going to sting the way you might have hoped because, frankly, many of us have heard it all before.  Immature.  Ungrateful.  “Why don’t you want me to be happy for once?”  “I can’t believe Larla isn’t over the divorce yet.”

The dynamic is not rocket science.  The children learn that they are expected to play a certain role, and at minimum never express any dissatisfaction with the blended family arrangement.  They pretend.  They keep their mouth shut.  The parents interpret this silence as meaning the blended family is working, and laud themselves for being sensitive, understanding, and mature, and the children for being “resilient.”  That illusion must be protected at all costs, even on anonymous message boards.

It’s cool though, you do you.  Sometimes it works great, I am sure, and even where it doesn’t it’s not the end of the world.
 But many of us here are providing honest answers to OPs question, and I, at least, wanted to share the long-term emotional poker face required of many children in this situation.  [/quote]

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