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It's very simple, really. Leadership is a[b] service [/b] and a [b]responsibility[/b]. It does not imply one person is better than the other. Does being a parent imply the parent is better than the child? And no, I am in no way implying that a husband is the parent of a wife, which would be a very large power imbalance.

Functioning systems all have some measure of hierarchy. Grow up, really. Or go live in a commune where everyone has exactly the same role and responsibilities and see how that works out for you. [/quote]

DP.  Leadership implies that one person is the leader and one is the follower.  It's an odd dynamic to have in a marriage. Now, it's true that in most marriages, one person is the "leader" in certain areas of daily life, but not in ALL things.  One person might take the lead on finances, the other might take the lead on education for the kids, etc.  But it sounds like your DH is the leader in every respect when it comes to your marriage and family. That means you are the follower.  It's a very old-fashioned way to approach marriage. Why can't you ALSO be a leader in some respects?  It's not mutually exclusive.  I also wonder what kind of example you are setting for your children.  How can you ever expect them, especially any daughters you may have, to become leaders when you are deferring that role to your DH? [/quote]

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