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I am not the "incredibly damaged" PP, but how do you know how incredibly damaged the son was? or does it not matter because you weren't incredibly damaged?[/quote]
You are right, I don't know.  I can't fault my parents for giving me an intact, tranquil home. [/quote]

How would you feel if your dad divorced your mom and chose to cut contact with you because he wanted to give his other children a stable home?[/quote]

What other children?[/quote]

If he chose to remarry and have other children. [/quote]
Children of marriage #1 do not threaten the stability of marriage #2, because a) there has been a formal marriage and divorce, b) wife #2 knew her husband was married before and had other children, there was no deception, and she was presumably fine with this when she married him. She went into this with her eyes open.   These two scenarios are not anywhere comparable. [/quote]

I am asking a specific PP whose dad does not speak with his son from his first marriage. PP and sibling are from second marriage.[/quote]
I'm sure I would feel horrible.  My point was to counter the earlier comment that ALL children are INCREDIBLY psychologically damaged by this.  Well, I had no contact with my half sibling and I am not damaged by it in the slightest. [/quote]

FWIW I wasn't the one who specifically invoked the 'incredibly psychologically damaged' line but I would think that the child most at risk of damage is the illegitimate one. I think the children in the marriage are at risk to have a volatile relationship with the parent that put the family at risk but the only way I see the children of the marriage being 'incredibly' damaged is if the married couple goes the super bitter angry fighting route which frequently puts the kids in the middle of the conflict. If your parents are amicable and kind to one another, together or apart, I think that's a good sign that the kids will all be alright. If your parents are angry and hateful towards each other, then regardless of whether or not the marriage is intact, the kids will be damaged. [/quote]

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