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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Haven't read all 17 pgs but my answer is - bc it doesn't feel good to have to say my snowflake didn't get into an Ivy; rather it feels better and easier to stay "positive" and explain why JMU or Mason or wherever is better than an Ivy anyway due to finances, location, or whatever other reason that family latches onto.

It's not complicated - it's the human need to not admit defeat, failure or inadequacy.[/quote]

+1. This and in addition to this -- bc their kids and other parents will HEAR them saying -- my kid is going to UMD bc no way was he going to make the cut for an ivy. Parenting now isn't how it was 20-40 yrs ago. If you don't treat and talk about your kid like a snowflake, OTHER parents think you are a HORRIBLE adult. In my heart of hearts -- I know my kid is going to an average school. I'm not suggesting that this dooms him to failure or says anything about his future net worth or happiness. But it does say that he didn't come close to making the cut for Wharton like his dad or Princeton like his mom or MIT like both his grandpas or Chicago/Caltech/Stanford like his cousins (lest everyone jump in and say college admissions is so much worse now - all his cousins were admitted 1-4 yrs before him and all are from DMV or Long Island competitive school districts). So while I am perfectly ok accepting "failure," I know that if I say it -- my adult friends, colleagues etc. -- will be SHOCKED that I DARE express that my son isn't the best and will feel sorry for my son -- when in reality there is nothing to feel sorry about, he's an average kid going to an average school, fully paid for by mom/dad, he'll enjoy college for 4 yrs, get a job, and move on with his life.[/quote]

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