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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]30yo doter here.  To answer the PP, he doesn't dote back the way I dote on him, but his version of doting is being affectionate, complimentary, and open.  Which is what I need. He says thank you when I do his laundry with mine, when I go grocery shopping for the weekend, when I make dinner (I'm off Friday's, he's not). It's a nice thank you, albeit quick, but it's usually after I point out what I did (jeez that sounds annoying. Why do I have to point it out?)
Sometimes I think in my head 'I just schleped around all day for us/you, it's kind of a big deal, acknowledge that...'

But then I've spent time reading this thread and realize - no ones making me do these things. No ones even asking me.  So, I think I'm going to scale back. Doting is in my nature so I don't think I could do/ would want to do a 180, but unfortunately I DO need the thank-you's and I DO feel annoyed if I don't get any acknowledgement. I hate admitting that after reading this whole thread. [/quote]

It's good that you recognize that the "faulty thinking" here lies with you, because it DOES. He's a grown man. If you didn't do his laundry, he'd do his laundry. When you do his laundry, he says thank you. You washed a couple of shirts because you wanted to, you didn't give him a kidney--a quick hank you is all that is needed. Now, if he ASKED you to do his laundry, or if he expected you to, that's a different story; but that is not this story.
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