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This thread can go back and forth, but the best thing anyone posting can do is to refocus on parenting one's own teen and keeping abreast of not only who their friends are, but who exactly are the parents of their friends.  Too many of you would never, ever think to call a parent and ask directly if there will be liquor or beer allowed at the party (really should ask "served" or gathering?  By junior or senior year in high school, it does not take that much for one to learn who"the party parents" are.

This was the result of poor decision making by all of the teens, BUT also very, very poor decision making by the parents who bought or allowed the drinking at their home.  These parents should be prosecuted.[/quote]

I'm the PP who posted about buying a breathalyzer and having my DD call me to get picked up from time to time.

When she was in slightly earlier teens (say age 15 range) we would routinely call the parents of the party hosts and ask if they would a) be home b) be serving alcohol. You wouldn't believe the amount of times the party was "cancelled" after we did this. [b]We also go a chilly reception a few times from asking this question. [/b]

Just ask. It puts people on notice that you are paying attention and its not ok with you. The behavior of parents buying alcohol for kids can only continue b/c they are under the impression other parents condone/ are ok with it.

When they start driving, from a practical matter, you have a little less control b/c the decisions of where to go on a given night may not be as within your control b/c you are not making the physical drop off, so this tactic is a little less in play. (I'm speaking from reality - I know there are parents of elementary schoolers on this thread who say that they will NEVER let this happen.)[/quote]

How did it impact your daughter socially?  I'm assuming they all stopped inviting her to things.   I'm not saying that we shouldn't check, as parents, but I think the social fallout for the kids is real.[/quote]

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