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So, what's the problem with toweling off poolside and then throwing on sweats over the suit, like many PPs have suggested?[/quote]

I'm a mom with a daughter.  On the advice of DCUM, I tried this with my DD one day.  She was miserable on the ride home.  Her wet suit soaked through her sweatpants.  We put a towel down over the car seat and the car seat still got wet--through the sweat and the towel.  Add to that that she had to walk to the car in a wet suit and then get into a 32 degree car, it was terrible.

I would not recommend this solution for a mom with boys.  And yes, I have a 4.5 yr boy.  I am going to be facing this challenge very soon as our pool does not have a family dressing room.  I'm not sure what I'm going to do if he is unable to manage to get his wet suit off his body, towel off, get his dry clothes out of his backpack, put them on, put his wet clothes into his backpack and come out an meet me outside the mens locker room.  At 4.5, he is not able to accomplish these things on his own.  Maybe in 6 months, he will be able to--who knows.

For the summer, I don't see an issue with going home in a wet suit.  It's the winter swimming where it really becomes an issue.[/quote]

The straps of a seat cannot get wet, so be careful. Just change your kid and ignore the comments.  They clearly do not have young boys.   I have got looks changing my kid in public when we were in a hurry  and none in the women's room, which was filled with boys.  Why would you place a wet child in a 32 degree car?   That makes no sense. One thing to have wet hair, but have wet clothing on your body is not ok. [/quote]

Ok, seriously, it's not ok for your son to be uncomfortable for a few moments because he's wearing a damp suit under sweats, but it's ok for him to make every girl in the locker room uncomfortable while they're changing?[/quote]

1) He won't be making anyone uncomfortable changing.  For fucks sake, he's 5.  If you or your daughters have a problem with this YOU CAN GO SWIM ELSEWHERE.  If you complain about me, it is YOU who will be thrown out, not me.
2) It's not a matter of him being uncomfortable because he's wet, it's a matter of getting hypothermia.  It would be severe neglect to take a wet child outside in freezing weather.  You know that so stop being deliberately obstinate.[/quote]

(1) Sorry, hon, he is.  You may not like that he is, but he is.  And me and my daughters are the one obeying the rules.  The rest of the world is not going to bend to your whims.  And I'll bet all the money in my pockets that I'm in no danger of being thrown out for asking that pool members obey the rules.

(2) Hypothermia?!  BWAH!  That's awesome.  I don't think you understand how, you know, physics works.  [/quote]

You're just not getting this are you.  I am following the rules.  My child is 5.  You are the one who is an unpleasant, grumpy old prude.  If your daughter has a problem with a 5 year old then it is HER PROBLEM and one that you need to discuss with her.  Perhaps you should just stay home.  It would make it easier for everyone.

Would you send your daughter out in below freezing weather in strong winds, with wet hair and wet clothes?  Do you think that's neglectful?  What about if her hair actually freezes?[/quote]

Would I send my daughter out in below freezing weather with damp hair and a damp suit on under dry sweats and a jacket, for the time it takes to get into a car and warm the car up?  Yes.  Have I done it?  Yes.  She was fine.  Has her hair frozen? Not on those occasions, but sometimes she's outside playing in the snow and her hair gets wet and then it freezes.  And you know what, PP?  IT THAWS.

Good lord.   :roll: [/quote]

Ok, how about you step outside you privileged country club world and understand that not everyone leaves the pool and heads into a warm already heated car.  How are you so insular that you can not comprehend this?

Also, fuck you, we are following the rules and regardless of whether or not it makes your prude daughter uncomfortable because there is a 5 year old with ZERO interest in her in her vicinity or whether or not it's too cold to wait for the bus home while your swimsuit soaks through your jeans, it's not up to you.  You are wrong and if your daughter is genuinely uncomfortable in the presence of a 5 year old boy for a few minutes while she's (most likely) changing under a towel (and where he'd likely see more bare flesh in the pool) it's YOUR PROBLEM, not mine.

End of discussion.  And lighten up, a little.  That rod is planted too far up your ass. No wonder your daughter has such fucked up issues about being around boy children.[/quote]

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