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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][google][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I actually [b]have the same problem.[/b] After 26 years, [b]DH still puts the napkin on the right [/b]with the knife and spoon on it and it drives me crazy. But I just change it and don’t make a federal case out of it. 
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Why is that a problem? [/quote]

Because Princess is putting on airs acting like Tuesday supper is a State Dinner.[/quote]

The rules of etiquette are the same everywhere.  There is not one set of rules for Tuesday supper and a completely different one for a State Dinner.

I think this is comforting for kids.  It can bring a sense of normalcy even in extreme situations.  Ma Ingalls made sure that the girls set the table correctly out on the frontier.  So did the Girl Guide leaders at the Weixian Internment Camp during WWII.

Establishing routines and patterns that can be followed in any situation makes difficult things psychologically easier to handle.

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Who decided the rules of etiquette and under what authority?[/quote]

Are you the same poster who insisted that it was ridiculous for kids to need a red sweater for the school chorus trip? You are a nightmare.[/quote]

No.

Now answer the question, please.[/quote]

Like you want a history lesson?  Are you asking about when various ancient civilizations started using various rituals and customs in day to day life? Or are you asking about dinnerware specifically?  
What do you mean “who decided the rules of etiquette?”

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I literally mean who decided the rules of etiquette, and under what authority?

Some of you seem to be under the impression that these completely  *arbitrary* rules are equivalent to scripture, and fail to comprehend that we’re not all members of your religion…[/quote]

lol…okay.  
You are welcome to try to change them.  Sneak into wedding venues and restaurants and throw the knives around.  Be a flatware anarchist!!![/quote]

So… zero clue, zero curiosity. What a good sheep.[/quote]

I mean, being a sheep is kind of the point.  These are the rules.

It’s kind of like soccer.  The rules might be arbitrary, but there are rules.  They do exist.  You and your family might not care about them when you are kicking the ball around in the backyard, or you might have your own “Johnson Family” soccer rules, and that’s fine.  But if you are going to play with a group of people who don’t know each other well, everyone is generally going to play by the conventional rules, so it behooves you to learn them.  And if your spouse grew up in a family that really cared about soccer and you never really played, they are going to expect you to learn the real rules of the game.

The history of the rules doesn’t matter.   It doesn’t matter who made them or who wrote them down.  It also doesn’t matter if you “subscribe” to them.  They exist outside of you.

You might not want to be a sheep and play in your own special way, but that doesn’t make you a free thinker.  It makes you clueless at best and kind of a jerk at worst.  [/quote]

It very much matters who makes “the rules” and whether individuals or societies choose to subscribe to them. (Did you know that “the rules” of traffic aren’t the same in different countries, for example? I know, mind blown!)

The rules of soccer are covered by FIFA, which is recognized throughout the entire world as soccer’s governing body.

What is the governing body of the “rules” of etiquette? (This brings us back to the question of authority, dear. You seem too simple-minded to make this connection on your own.)[/quote]

This is so weird.  The rules for professional soccer are governed by FIFA, but your adult rec team isn’t governed by anything other than social convention.  Even so, when you are in a group of people who don’t know each other well, everyone plays by the same rules.  Otherwise, the game isn’t as fun.

[b]I really don’t get what you don’t get about this.[/b][/quote]

Is the table setting just a crutch so you can tell right from left?[/quote]

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