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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For HSV having a positive antibody test means you have the antibodies for the virus in your blood. Which means you have it. It means the virus is in your blood. Could be dormant, you could have zero outbreaks, one outbreak or outbreaks all the time. It means you have the virus and can spread it to others.[b] If you test positive for the antibody test you will always test positive for it-because it’s permanent[/b]. It’s totally fine if some of you are comfortable with that but it doesn’t change the fact that the person has it. Maybe they will never have an outbreak and will never spread it but honestly there is no way to know that. Someone can have it dormant for years and then have an outbreak. [/quote]

But that’s not true

[quote]Thank you for explaining this. 20 years ago, I tested positive for antibody when I was in HS and I was so confused because I was still a virgin.

I’ve never had a cold sore in my life. When i tested for the hsv again in college (this time i was sexual), I didn’t have the antibody[/quote]
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Most people get HSV-1 during childhood so it wouldn’t be weird at all for you to test positive for it in high school. People get it from being kissed by parents/family members. That being said false negatives/false positives were definitely a thing with the tests 20 years ago so it also was probably just a false positive.

[b]Also they for sure test pregnant women for HSV-2 but only if you tell them you have it/Have possibly been exposed. They asked me about it in all 3 of my pregnancies. [/quote][/b]

They clearly don’t. If you’re not showing any signs of an outbreak. You can request but they don’t “for sure test”. [/quote]

Because the OP said her doctor didn’t? Obviously her doctor isn’t a good one. They absolutely test you if you tell them you have it or might have it. Doctors want to protect the babies.

But yeah-who cares. It’s just herpes. It can actually kill babies but no really it’s fine. Some of you are really insane.

Also some of you need to look up what the word permanent means. Because you seem confused. [/quote]

The last two pages are full of replies from multiple people stating how it’s not standard to test if you’re not showing signs of symptoms. It’s not a reliable test if you’re not showing symptoms because many people will test positive for antibodies - it’s not a reliable test for infection, exposure timeline, etc., only that you’ve simply been exposed, which most of the population has. We’re simply repeating the typical protocol from doctors and health organizations.[/quote]
Why are you acting like testing positive for the antibodies doesn’t mean you have herpes? That’s literally what it means. Positive antibodies = you have herpes and must inform all partner you have. [/quote]
Which OP now  has to do. She was exposed the same way he was, and he didn't  even know he was infected. [/quote]

If a doctor says you don’t have it, what do you need to disclose? [/quote]

The doctor didn’t see any sores. And a person who has genital herpes isn’t going to have sores unless they are having an outbreak. That’s why she should have had the blood test. And because of her fiance’s doctor supposedly telling him something similar is exactly why OP is in the position she is currently in. [/quote]

No, his doctor told him he was positive. That is not the same thing.

You can have sex with someone with herpes, knowingly or unknowingly, and never get it because unless they’re having an outbreak there’s a very slim chance of getting it.

I feel like it’s akin to [b]HPV (if doctor says that you don’t have it if you have no symptoms after having sex with someone who is positive) - you should probably just assume most people have it. You can have sex with someone with HPV and never get it. “ [/b]Disclosure of HPV (Human Papillomavirus) to sexual partners is a personal choice rather than a medical or legal mandate, as the virus is incredibly common”. [/quote]

You failed to indicate that anyone who has it can transmit while not having an active lesion. It’s called being in the “pro dome stage”. [/quote]

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