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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know this is an old thread... but I really hate when people say no kids and then still invite kids.

If an event is truly 18+ or 21+ that is totally fine! Say that! [b]But dont say "no kids" and then invite other peoples kids. [/b]Just invite the adults.

I had an 18+ wedding. No kids were invited, no kids attended. [/quote]

It's their party and they can do what they want to. [/quote]
It's improper etiquette and poor hosting.

But sure, they can also charge people a cover fee. It's their party. Doesnt not make it tacky and rude.[/quote]

[b]This is not strictly true -- there is no specific etiquette rule that says if you invite some children to a wedding, you must allow all guests to bring their kids.[/b]

We only invited the kids of our immediate family because, for space reasons, this allowed us to invite more friends and also to ensure anyone who wanted to bring a date could (not just people who were married or in longterm relationships). Would it have been more polite invite the kids of our friends who had them, but then not invite 15 more friends we really did want to be there? Or tell our unmarried friends they aren't allowed to bring a date? Sometimes you have to make choices.

Charging a cover or making people pay for their drinks is a totally different matter. That's bad hosting because if you invite someone to a wedding, you should be providing them with food and drink. But not inviting every single child of every single guest is not automatically rude unless you are weirdly targeted about it (which most people are not -- in OP's case, it was only the children of the wedding party who were invited, which makes sense because they have more wedding obligations and also those kids are more likely to be known to, and important to, the bride and groom).[/quote]
Please re-read what I wrote, I never said if you invite some kids you have to invite all. I said it's improper to write "no kids" or "adults only" when there will, in fact, be kids attending. That's it! Invite who you want, just don't lie on your invitations. [/quote]

At first I was surprised that you had not encountered this situation before, since it is quite common, as many others have stated. But not anymore. I now understand why you have not been invited to many weddings, and lack the experience. [/quote]
Lol! Quite the opposite. I love weddings, I love celebrating love and attend quite a few. If you don't know proper etiquette just say so, no need to make up stories about how awful other peoples lives are to make yourself feel better. [/quote]

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