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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I too hate where I live. 
I am from rural Michigan and moved to Chicago after college for a change of scenery. Got married to a native Chicagoan. 15 years later I am just done. I hate it here, I hate the leftist crazies, I hate the identical "We Believe" signs in front of the identical houses, I hate having to socially navigate with the other insane parents around here. Every time we visit my home I cry on the way back because I want to stay so badly. My husband won't leave because he's comfortable here and he would feel guilty leaving his parents. My life is passing me by. My best friend from childhood has a lovely lakefront house that cost less than ours with lower taxes and my husband says "Maybe someday." He would never take the initiative to find a new job. We are both in healthcare and could work anywhere.
I chose to come here when I was young and stupid.[/quote]

Take responsibility for your life and your decisions.

You want to buy a Michigan lake house and move there with your family.   Sounds like a pretty good idea.

What actual planning have you done?  Have you looked at areas and priced out Michigan lake houses?  Would the numbers work?  How long would it take to sell your current house and how much could you realistically net from the sale?  If you have school age kids, where would they be going to school?

You say you and your spouse could work anywhere.  Have you polished up your resume and actually started applying for jobs near where you would like to live?  What kind of income could you expect and if less than now, what sacrifices are you prepared to make?  Do you have 12 months worth of liquid savings just in case it's not so easy for your husband or you to find suitable work?

If your husband isn't on board,have you also looked at jobs that might be suitable for him?    It doesn't sound like you've done anything at all to get him onboard with your plan except complain and whine.  That doesn't work.

If you literally cry every time you come back from a visit, that's a signal that you need therapy to address some deep rooted emotional issues.  You will not be ready to handle the stress of a major move until you can at least stop all the crying.

If you want to make things happen in your life, especially against opposition or friction, you have to get better control of yourself first.[/quote]

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