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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I'd love to know what you communicated about this evening to your guests. Did you invite them for a specific time with no end time, or give them a sense that you were thinking 5-9? Did you explain that the kids and adults would eat and socialize separately?

It sounds like you and your existing friend group have a really strong pattern for how you socialize. These guests were new acquaintances you obviously didn't know veery well (since you didn't even know they had a teen in the family.)

Did you assume your pattern of socializing was the norm for everyone and the new family would expect it, or did you communicate what the night would look like? Your socializing pattern would very much NOT be what I would have been expecting with dinner with new acquaintances. Had you invited us for a family dinner I would have assumed that meant arrive, chat for a bit while kids play (30-60 minutes), eat dinner with everyone together, kids play a bit more while adults finish wine, dessert for all, and then home. I would certainly not expect to stay until 9 with younger kids, as this is past their bedtime. This is the norm in my social circle. Neither is right or wrong; neither is some universal default. With my version teen coming and hanging with the adults would have been fine (and much shorter); with yours it was long and awkward and I suspect teen wished she had stayed home. But it may well be a case of miscommunication, not rudeness, lack of social awareness, etc., and let's not go looking for someone to blame...especially not a kid.

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