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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - LOL y'all are worked up!  A few clarifications, from myself only (can't speak for others who share some of my perspectives).

- I have NOTHING against large families.  I know plenty, and am close with many.  My issue is with the ones who can't manage the logistics and therefore the kids suffer - missing birthday parties, missing swim practice and therefore getting timed out of meets, etc.  The soccer thing was an example.  Of course, there are smaller families who struggle with this stuff also.  But the larger families I know often blame it on having so many kids.

- [b]I got pregnant twice on the first try and strongly considered a third.  Decided against it ultimately, for a myriad of reasons. [/b] But infertility and/or jealousy (I agree with others - why would anyone be jealous of something they CHOSE not to do and could have done?) weren't factors.

I initially posted this because I feel bad for the kids, who in at least a few families I know like this, are definitely missing out.

Are there other kids who miss out on things?  Of course.  Are there larger families who have it all together and kick ass?  Of course.  Not debating either of those.

Carry on!

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Ah, but it is precisely the fact that you made the decision that makes you so desperate to convince yourself it was the right one. Women who, say, suffered from infertility don't have that burden. It was not meant to be and they move on without need to belittle the alternative they didn't choose. But you could do it and didn't and you constantly work (hard, it seems) to keep yourself happy with your own decision.[/quote]

Uh, she sounds happy with that decision?   You guys are SO defensive.  OWN YOUR CHOICES - who cares what others think?[/quote]

DP, but people who are truly happy with their decisions typically don't start and maintain long, vitriolic threads on anonymous internet pages.  I cannot fathom feeling so angry about something that has nothing to do with me (and which reeks of clueless privilege) that I start a thread here and then keep coming back to fan the flames.

"But the children!!"  [b]I can think of children in way worse situations than what's being described here[/b].  Jesus.[/quote]

Uh, so can everyone?  You guys are making up situations that don't exist.[/quote]

I haven't made up any situations.  My point was that people don't harbor serious resentment towards parents whose kids miss the occasional birthday party unless they have some personal reason behind it.  Claiming that these kids are soooo neglected is appalling.[/quote]

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