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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There is nothing wrong with having a no kids wedding.

But you would have to be a very close friend or a sibling in order for me to attend.

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Hmm...I am the opposite.  I wouldn't bring my kids to a college friend or co-workers wedding even when kids are invited.  At that point, it's usually a big party.  I have been most annoyed when my brother didn't invite my kids to his wedding.  It's a big family event.  My parents and grandparents, cousins, etc were there, many of whom live thousands of miles away. [b] It would have been fun to have my little girl dance with her great grandpa. [/b]

Anyway, it is what it is.  It was fun either way, and it wasn't my wedding.  [/quote]

Then book a trip to go see great grandpa, and let your daughter dance with him, if it’s so important to you to have that memory. It’s not up to someone else to make your dreams a reality. [/quote]

He died shortly between the wedding and when the trip was booked.  [/quote]

This still doesn’t make your wish to disobey the wedding guidelines any more valid. It. Is. Not. About. You. [/quote]

Look.  I didn't bring my kids.  I hosted a party and paid for food and babysitting for all of the kids of invitees at my parents house (I lived about 200 miles away at the time).  I didn't say anything to my brother or his wife. But I am not even allowed to FEEL a little annoyed about it?  [/quote]

NP. Sure, feel annoyed for all the good it will do you. And just remember that maybe your kid's friends' parents might FEEL ANNOYED if you don't invite each and every kid to the birthday party, or your friend might FEEL ANNOYED if you have your Christmas party on a date when you know she'll be out of town...that's life. Not everything works out the way you want it to, all the time. [/quote]

True.  And the appropriate response is, "thank you for changing your plans to o go out of town so you could come to our Christmas party.  We are so glad to have you here."  Not, "sorry you're inconvenienced, but it's. Not. About. You."[/quote]

Except no one expects you to change your plans so you can come to the Christmas party. You put that burden on yourself, you chose to take that action on your own, you did your own cost/benefit analysis, and that's the answer you came up with. So you'll get a, "Great! So glad you are able to come," but you won't get a thank you for changing your plans, because no one asked that of you or expected that from you.[/quote]

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