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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There is nothing wrong with having a no kids wedding.

But you would have to be a very close friend or a sibling in order for me to attend.

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Hmm...I am the opposite.  I wouldn't bring my kids to a college friend or co-workers wedding even when kids are invited.  At that point, it's usually a big party.  I have been most annoyed when my brother didn't invite my kids to his wedding.  It's a big family event.  My parents and grandparents, cousins, etc were there, many of whom live thousands of miles away. [b] It would have been fun to have my little girl dance with her great grandpa. [/b]

Anyway, it is what it is.  It was fun either way, and it wasn't my wedding.  [/quote]

Then book a trip to go see great grandpa, and let your daughter dance with him, if it’s so important to you to have that memory. It’s not up to someone else to make your dreams a reality. [/quote]

He died shortly between the wedding and when the trip was booked.  [/quote]

Not to be cruel, but I imagine that trip could have been made at any time. It’s unfortunate when he passed, but that’s the nature of dealing with the aged. We traveled overseas last year to see Great Grandma, thinking it was the last time. We leave again in two weeks to see her again. This is life. The wedding and it’s lack of inviting children had nothing to do with it, but your grief is telling you it did. [/quote]

I didn't mean to be so dramatic about this.  It's not like my kids never met my grandpa.  He came to visit my parents twice a year, and we usually went out when he was there once a year and flew out to visit him once a year.  
I just meant that it seems odd that people would want to take their kids to a coworkers wedding where they likely know no one, but not be annoyed about not bring them to a family members wedding where the kids will likely know many of the guests very well.[/quote]

I get you.  Weddings used to be considered *family* events -- events for the whole family to spend together and reconnect, because that's what family is about, and people have limited time and resources to travel. It's frankly a loss to family to now structure weddings as "all about the couple" to the extent that some family members are excluded.  I mean, yes, it's the couple's right to decide how they want to get married.  But it's also a lost opportunity and lost tradition to strengthen family ties.  I'm thankful for that all the nuttiness in my own family, at least weddings are still seen as for the whole family.  So whatever, all you "but it's her SPECIAL DAY!!" folks.  Sure, it's her party.  But I wonder what you're losing by narrowing the focus even more sharply down to the individuals.  [/quote]

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