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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She’s a junior right now, she’ll be a senior in the fall. Her screen time during days off is 12hr, she’s addicted. She refuses to get a job. She doesn’t have a desire to spend money or buy anything, so that does contribute to this. OP[/quote]

[b]Then you have a bigger problem than having no summer plans.  You have a kid with a digital addiction with no social life and aspirations.  Maybe you can get some professional guidance on this.[/b][/quote]

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She MUST handle this now, because if she goes to college, she will have a hard time staying focused and doing her homework - college, as you know, is very loose - you take 4 classes per semester which fills up some hours, but there is LOTS of time that the college student must design their own time - to study, sleep, hang out with friends, go to a party, eat, etc.  She is at huge danger of ending up just staying on her device way too much when not in class and not getting her homework done, which means she will be on academic probation very quickly.

Also, in my house we either worked or volunteered - no WAY were we allowed to "just be at home all day" in the summer.  We certainly had downtime, and weren't working 8 hours a day, but a part time job is absolutely required.

Now, if you are home, she gets 2 hours of screens per day.  The rest of the day if she isn't working at a job/volunteering, she can clean the house from top to bottom weekly (dust, vacuum, wash the kitchen floor & bathrooms).  On other days she will do projects - reorganize all closets, clean out the shed (or come to my house and get our shed cleaned out); cutting the grass 2x/week until mid summer, then 1x/week, and edging.  And weeding - so much weeding! Hell, if you have silver she can polish the silver as a project.    I bet she'd get a PT job if you told her all that (and meant it).

NOW - if you work, I have no idea how you could enforce the above, so THEN I'd require a job.  Yes, get a job shelving books at the library.  Or volunteer somewhere - she can clean cages at an animal shelter without talking to many people.  I don't know but GET OUT OF THE HOUSE AND WORK/VOLUNTEER! [/quote]

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