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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In China, children are treated as chattal. As they are considered a source of retirement income, children have traditionally been fought over as an asset belonging to only one divorcing parent. That's why boys are so valued - they stay with the natal family and bring in a bride whereas a daughter is simply going to marry out one day so is a waste of an investment.

Anyway, you are in the States and here the priority is what is in the best interest of the children. The Chinese grandparents probably don't understand that. Most Chinese immigrants still think the world operates like China does.
Don't let them take the kid to China. There are stories where the child is kept there and it's almost impossible to repatriate them. 
Otherwise, you will be fine. However, the half Chinese child - well, if he's a boy he will enter his teens with questions about his masculinity and value in the sexual marketplace. Asian men are amongst the lowest tier in dating apps. But maybe not. I know a half Japanese boy who was chased by lots of girls in high school and as a college freshman his high school girlfriend who attends another college races to visit him every single weekend. So what I am saying is that if you have a Wasian son, a relationship with the Asian parent might be good, might be not so good because of this. Adolescence can be a tough period when it comes to this topic.[/quote]

This is the weirdest take??[/quote]

OP and I actually understood where this PP was coming from even if it was kind of rambling. My STBX brought a lot of the negative baggage alluded to in this post to our relationship.[/quote]

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