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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My Dads are 6 and 9. These types of requests would be unacceptable and they know it. They are told to figure it out themselves most of the time anyway. If they need a new item, I will get with them ant a free moment and discuss options and prices. They also spend their own $ on those and I will order and they pay me back. 
No request without a "please, thank you , if you have time" gets honored. Any "I want" request gets a "wanting is great" response. [/quote]

OP here.  I think I’m responding the right way (e.g., do it yourself, figure it out), but the breadth of requests wears me down.  How do you stay patient and not sound totally annoyed?  Like I do, lol[/quote]

My DD (9 years old) is like this.  FWIW, I used to be a SAHM, but have been back at work for a few years.  Regardless of being home or not, I consider myself a fairly connected and responsive parent, and sometimes I think this is the price of that lol.  The kids rely on me to help, provide informatino, etc.  But I do try to typically respond by requiring patience.  Like for the crochet, I might say, "I love that you're looking to get back into crocheting, it's such a great hobby.  Can you think of a few places you can look to try to find it yourself? If you can't find it, I'll make a note that we'll find it together Saturday afternoon when we're home from sports for the day."  If she complains, I say something like, "I understand your frustration because you want it now, but mom has more immediate things to do for the family like getting dinner on the table and helping with homework.  I know you can be patient even though it's hard."  This also is my 3rd DC, and I do think she's just a bit more impatient and impulsive than your average kid (maybe birth order, maybe just personality, who knows).  
This all is tiring, and it can be hard not to snap, but I do see gradual acceptance and more self-help, so I think it pays off if you don't always hop to.[/quote]

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