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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am always afraid I am this person, because I struggle with silence. Especially in a situation like a training where often people will just e quiet and wait for someone else to talk, I find myself talking more than I want to just because if no one speaks, it makes me feel very antsy.

My hope is that my fear that I am that person prevents me from actually being that person, but I've found it's hard to get an accurate gauge on how much you are talking. Sometimes in meetings I'll say "I feel like I've been talking a lot" and hand discussions over to others, and they will be so reluctant to talk.

Obviously I have anxiety about this. I envy people who can just sit silently and are unbothered if that means the meeting comes to a halt or discussion is stunted.[/quote]

You know this is annoying but you put your feelings above everyone else’s - have I got that right? [/quote]

Nope. I actually think a lot about how other people are interpreting my talking and worry others think I talk too much, but can't tell if it's an issue or not. I especially don't know what to do with people who just don't talk even when it seems necessary to do so, like in a meeting where people have been asked to raise issues, ask questions, or make suggestions, and no one else does. Is it annoying if I then dominate the conversation? Or are people grateful someone else is doing the heavy lifting? I don't know.

This is the fundamental problem of people who under-communicate versus people who over-communicate. Yes, there are likely times when I talk "too much." But if someone else just spoke up or even said, "let's hear from someone else," that would be great. I don't want to just sit in silence staring at each other.[/quote]

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