Any tips for getting them to step? Ignore them? Actively do something else?

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Anonymous wrote:I talk a ton and have no anxiety. I just get excited and am interested in talking to people and have trouble shutting up. I don’t feel like there’s anything pathologically wrong with me except I’m a chatterbox.

Are you a boomer, millineiel, gen x, y, z, a, b, c, d, e, f, g, ??

Gen X. But I know people of all generations who are chatterboxes. And men and women.

Forgot about that one.

Ratchet-Jaw is a funny one.

I’d rather be around a talkative person than the judgmental jerks who malign other people for being different.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I talk a ton and have no anxiety. I just get excited and am interested in talking to people and have trouble shutting up. I don’t feel like there’s anything pathologically wrong with me except I’m a chatterbox.

Are you a boomer, millineiel, gen x, y, z, a, b, c, d, e, f, g, ??

Gen X. But I know people of all generations who are chatterboxes. And men and women.

I'll go a step further--taking over with talking nonstop is rude and takes advantage of people's politeness. I am under no obligation to put up with it (after being too nice for too long and enduring these people). So now I just say, Sorry I have to go. Such a relief!

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Anonymous wrote:I am always afraid I am this person, because I struggle with silence. Especially in a situation like a training where often people will just e quiet and wait for someone else to talk, I find myself talking more than I want to just because if no one speaks, it makes me feel very antsy.

My hope is that my fear that I am that person prevents me from actually being that person, but I've found it's hard to get an accurate gauge on how much you are talking. Sometimes in meetings I'll say "I feel like I've been talking a lot" and hand discussions over to others, and they will be so reluctant to talk.

Obviously I have anxiety about this. I envy people who can just sit silently and are unbothered if that means the meeting comes to a halt or discussion is stunted.

You know this is annoying but you put your feelings above everyone else’s - have I got that right?

Nope. I actually think a lot about how other people are interpreting my talking and worry others think I talk too much, but can't tell if it's an issue or not. I especially don't know what to do with people who just don't talk even when it seems necessary to do so, like in a meeting where people have been asked to raise issues, ask questions, or make suggestions, and no one else does. Is it annoying if I then dominate the conversation? Or are people grateful someone else is doing the heavy lifting? I don't know.

This is the fundamental problem of people who under-communicate versus people who over-communicate. Yes, there are likely times when I talk "too much." But if someone else just spoke up or even said, "let's hear from someone else," that would be great. I don't want to just sit in silence staring at each other.

Anonymous wrote:Some people think aloud.

It is amazing. They literally have no thought that passes through their head that they don’t narrate.

And the repetition, my God.

Shut. Up.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I talk a ton and have no anxiety. I just get excited and am interested in talking to people and have trouble shutting up. I don’t feel like there’s anything pathologically wrong with me except I’m a chatterbox.

Are you a boomer, millineiel, gen x, y, z, a, b, c, d, e, f, g, ??

Or Italian or Jewish?

Anonymous wrote:I talk a ton and have no anxiety. I just get excited and am interested in talking to people and have trouble shutting up. I don’t feel like there’s anything pathologically wrong with me except I’m a chatterbox.

Are you a boomer, millineiel, gen x, y, z, a, b, c, d, e, f, g, ??

Just say "you're so talkative". Usually the talkative ones are quick to point out I am so quiet. It would be fair if more people would also call out the talkative ones.