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[quote=Anonymous]What makes my man a "quality man" IMHO: He recently turned 60. Grown kids with successful careers, and no contact with his ex/their mom. He's about 6' tall with broad shoulders and arms with big muscles from his years in the military as an officer. He's got a demeanor that can calm animals and control unruly people. He's been through years of therapy, including on his own in the years after his marriage ended. He has a ton of airline points from his heavy work-travel days (international), and consults now that he's retired from the military on international issues, and he's a ton of fun to talk with about lots of different topics. Very well read, holds two master's degrees, and is into art, music, and foodie things. Loves to practice his Spanish and French that he learned through his career. Loves the outdoors, as do I. He is very at ease as my date at a dinner party hosted by a former MOC, AND he consistently treats wait staff with kindness and respect even when nobody is looking. He's involved in his church and contributes/volunteers with non-profit charities. When we first met, he invited me on a date, planned everything with my input, and paid. He "used his words" to make it clear that he was interested in developing a LTR with me, and was explicit about his hope to marry again. In almost a year, I have never once wondered where things stand between the two of us. He grooms himself well, dresses in clean and pressed up-to-date clothing that he buys from "the right" places for someone of his UMC social standing. He wears glasses that flatter his face. He accessorizes well. He loves costume parties and is a really good sport about silly things like that. He even dressed as Santa for my brother's grandchildren. He helps my elderly mom walk from the car into restaurants or stores. Best of all, he loves me for my brains, accomplishments, and professional success as well as for my looks.

He would never do Botox himself, although he doesn't have a problem knowing that I have used it. He still has a full head of hair that he jokes is "platinum blonde" and he'd never color it. He's fine with me coloring mine. He does need to lose about 30+ pounds, but his concern about that is related to his health and not his looks.

Both of us think the other was totally hot back when we were in our twenties. And thankfully, we both find one another very physically attractive now that we're well past 55. But that's because our expectations and standards have changed as our waists have expanded. I was not attracted to men who look like today's version of him back in my 30s or 40s. I'm sure he'd say the same. If you can't let go of believing that youth=attractive, you'll
likely miss out on finding a great partner in mid-life. FWIW the only men over 55 I know who use Botox or color their hair are openly gay or work as on-air talent.[/quote]

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