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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Some of the responses in this thread directly contradict each other.

Either she is totally out of control, doesn't have the tools or knowledge to calm herself down, and needs my support to learn those tools (staying with her while of course not letting her hit).

She is a sly mastermind - she can stop herself from hitting or screaming, but is taking advantage of me and I'm a bad parent letting her walk all over me. In which case I need to shut her in her room until she calms down.

Both of these cannot be true.

Based on observing her in the moment + talking to her after + reading Dr Becky, Dr Laura, Janet Lansbury, and other books about how kids' brains work, I thought it was the former. But still some people say that's wrong and the latter is true.

My brain is exploding here, ladies - what is the right answer? [/quote]

OP – All you are coming across is people with different parenting styles. I have what I think is the right answer for me and my kids, and other people are chiming in with what works for them and their kids.

For me, being empathetic with firm boundaries feels right. And more importantly, it has worked to create a healthy relationship between me and my children.

Part of being a parent is sifting through a bunch of differing opinions to figure out what suits you and your family.

I’m not saying all strategies are equal. I think most experts would say that authoritative parenting is ideal versus authoritarian or just being a complete pushover. But there’s a lot of variance even in what authoritative parenting looks like.
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