Reply to SAHM with both parents involved

Forum Index » Elementary School-Aged Kids

Reply to "SAHM with both parents involved "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]I was a SAHM with a spouse working long hours.

I did all the mental load things.  I planned the menu, shopped, and cooked and packed lunches.  I kept track of which kids needed medical appointments and took them and filled the prescriptions, and remembered which nights the kid wore the retainer.  I planned all the birthday parties and summer camps and selected and kept the schedule for extracurriculars.

I did all of the household tasks that aren't super time dependent, like laundry, and cleaning the toilets, and taking the dog to the vet.

But when DH was home and awake (DH worked shift work, including overnights), he was a 50/50 partner.  If the table needed to be cleared, he was as likely as me to do it.  If a kid needed a bath or to be put to bed it might be him or me.  If the trash needed to go out or the dishwasher needed to be emptied during the time he was home then it might be him or me.  I did all the cooking, and all the homework help, because those are my strengths, and he did the yard work that came up during those times, and the dog walking, and took the kids outside to play, so we were both doing things but not always the same thing, but it was equal.

We also prioritized sitting down to a meal together whenever possible, whether that was breakfast, lunch or dinner,  going to church together, and him attending the kids sports as much as possible.  [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics