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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not sure if posting about race related stuff is appropriate here but here goes. I’m Chinese and was raised in the US. DH is as well. I have a lot of Asian friends - nothing against anyone else but I’ve just tended to gravitate towards people with a similar backgrounds and have a certain comfort level with them. It never surprised me that I married someone Chinese. It would’ve seemed odd to me that I mostly hang out with Asians but then marry a non-Asian, if that makes sense? Anyways, we have kids now and lately my parents have been commenting on how they have various Chinese friends whose kids married white people, and how their kids are so cute (yeah I get it, mixed race kids are cute). They made a comment about how it would’ve interesting if I married someone outside of our race. For some reason their comments really bothered me. Am I somehow inferior since I “settled” for someone of my own ethnicity? Is marrying a white person a gold standard for an Asian? What’s wrong with being proud of who I am and finding someone similar? I just wanted to vent a little. Curious about others thoughts on this. Anyone have parents like this?[/quote] Race is a social consruct by the way. Asian people (as society defines, since race is a social construct) are not special as compared to other people. White people (as society defines, since race is a social construct) are not special as compared to other people. All of this internet discussion of "Asians" wondering how to grapple with the "fact" of how great they are as a people and how to manage that having to live among the whites (yes, its is only whites that matter, other groups are sort of accidental observers of the actual relevant groups) who just don't undertand that fact yet is odd. [/quote]
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