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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m type A and somewhat of a perfectionist.

By now that I have three kids, a lot of things just aren’t in my control. There are a lot of variables in play with kids, house, pets, spouse that I never judge someway as being flaky.  I don’t take it personally.

If they are late or can’t make something last minute, whatever, I don’t care and move on with my life.  You never know when the dog is going to have diarrhea on the floor the second before walking out or when one kid just won’t get moving in the moving for whatever reason…just give people grace and let it go[/quote]

I don’t think OP is considering one-off or even two-off emergencies as habitual lateness. And you can tell bc a normally-punctual person would text on the way with an apology, and then begin the encounter with a frazzled explanation of how the dog had an accident just as they were leaving…

OP is talking about someone who is consistently 10-20 minutes late with no explanation, or who *always* texts five minutes before (or at time of) agreed-upon meeting to say “traffic, there in 10” or “running late for our 4:00, but I’ll be there by 4:15”….once or twice is not a pattern. But I have one friends and two work associates who do this so frequently that I am now reasonably confident that a 1:00 meetup will be 1:30…and I plan accordingly or don’t make plans with them at all if a late start won’t fit my schedule that day
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OP here. I am totally fine with 10-15 min late. There is traffic. Kid has to use restroom. That is acceptable.

I’m talking about people who cancel AFTER the meeting time and then my kid is disappointed. Or we know this one mom who will pick a date and no time and no location and just expects us to be free the entire day. Then she finally agrees to a time and then tries to change it a few hours later. Or she will throw out a date and time and never confirm. If my kid didn’t like hers so much, I would not even bother.

I have 3 kids. I don’t have to deal with my older kids’ parents anymore since everything is drop off. My oldest has a friend whose parents are divorced and not good communicators. The kid is wonderful and we just pick him up and drive him. I have been driving and paying for this kid for years.[/quote]

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