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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I did change my legal name and I think it's more that I never, ever have to explain that I'm related to my kids or my husband and there are small conveniences related to that. It's obvious to everyone at schools and camps, I can grab my husband's library books,

I have always thought that your last name is a shorthand indicator that explains who you are related to. To me, it made sense to highlight my adult nuclear family. The only time I ever missed legally having my  maiden name was after my father passed away, and I had to explain our relationship to the hospital/funeral home etc.[/quote]

OP here. I mean, totally fine -- but know I never have had to do explain or do anything like this either. ANd it sounds like with very minor exceptions over the years, others who still have their original name haven't eiter.[/quote]

For example, I will say, I 'need to grab my uhsband's library books' and then tell them his name. I suppose the difference is you say, "I am Mary smith, i am here to get my husband's library books," but I just say, "I am Paul Smith's wife and here to get his books"[/quote]

I haven't every had to explain or do anything either.  We've been picking up each other's prescriptions when we were living together before marriage (25 years ago) - even controlled substances. [/quote]

Same! My DH always picks up my prescriptions because our pharmacy is very convenient for his commute. A few times I've worried that they will give him a hard time but it's never been an issue.

And I am usually the one to pick up our DD's prescriptions, and she and I have different last names. Again also never an issue.

If you live in a diverse city, people just don't get hung up on this. There are lots of different naming conventions around the world. DC has many immigrants with different approaches to names including family names. Turns out it's all fine.[/quote]

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