Anonymous
Post 01/08/2024 14:01     Subject: s/o "I had to change my name because of logistical issues"
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Also chiming in that in the 13 years I've been a parent with her own name, I also have never had a single issue traveling domestically or internationally, at school, or in any other situation.

I took dh's last name and I consider it my own. I'm sure you don't intend to imply that those who change their last names don't have their "own name", but we do. I'm Jill Dh's Lastname. I chose this name. It is my own name.


You know what she meant. Birth name.

My birth name includes my father's last name. Whatever women choose to do namewise, they still have a man's last name.
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2024 13:55     Subject: s/o "I had to change my name because of logistical issues"
Anonymous wrote:I had an issue getting on a flight in Italy with my kids. My husband had boarded in front of us and a flight crew person had to go retrieve him for us to all board. When I travel with my kid(s) without my husband I take their official birth certificates.


This should be happening regardless of last name when traveling internationally. They want to make sure you are not abducting the child and have permission from the other parent to move them internationally.
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2024 13:52     Subject: s/o "I had to change my name because of logistical issues"
Totally agree. I didn't change my name and it is never been an issue.
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2024 13:52     Subject: s/o "I had to change my name because of logistical issues"
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What is up with all these name change threads recently? Is this a troll / bot? What is your angle?


Big Print at it again. They profit from name changes because it increases demands for new business cards.


Who still uses business cards in 2024?


People who go to conferences? I still give and recieve tons of business cards!


pretty sure the "big print" conspiracy is not a serious comment
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2024 12:52     Subject: s/o "I had to change my name because of logistical issues"
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What is up with all these name change threads recently? Is this a troll / bot? What is your angle?


Big Print at it again. They profit from name changes because it increases demands for new business cards.


Who still uses business cards in 2024?


People who go to conferences? I still give and recieve tons of business cards!
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2024 12:49     Subject: s/o "I had to change my name because of logistical issues"
Anonymous wrote:It's kind of exhausting to keep track of who are the parents of each kid my kid makes plans with.

You could say it's because phone books are missing useful features for coordinating members of a family, but one name per family, especially a unique name per family, is simpler.



Does your school's phonebook not cross-reference? Mine does (and so does my temple's). This is perhaps an indicator of how common it is to have multiple last name households.
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2024 12:46     Subject: s/o "I had to change my name because of logistical issues"
Anonymous wrote:It's kind of exhausting to keep track of who are the parents of each kid my kid makes plans with.

You could say it's because phone books are missing useful features for coordinating members of a family, but one name per family, especially a unique name per family, is simpler.



Do you believe other women should change their names beacuse you find it "exhausting?" Serious question.
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2024 12:45     Subject: s/o "I had to change my name because of logistical issues"
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Also chiming in that in the 13 years I've been a parent with her own name, I also have never had a single issue traveling domestically or internationally, at school, or in any other situation.

I took dh's last name and I consider it my own. I'm sure you don't intend to imply that those who change their last names don't have their "own name", but we do. I'm Jill Dh's Lastname. I chose this name. It is my own name.


Oh, PLEASE. You know exactly what she meant. You're in the majority, so don't play oppressed victim here.
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2024 12:45     Subject: s/o "I had to change my name because of logistical issues"
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Also chiming in that in the 13 years I've been a parent with her own name, I also have never had a single issue traveling domestically or internationally, at school, or in any other situation.

I took dh's last name and I consider it my own. I'm sure you don't intend to imply that those who change their last names don't have their "own name", but we do. I'm Jill Dh's Lastname. I chose this name. It is my own name.


You know what she meant. Birth name.
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2024 12:45     Subject: s/o "I had to change my name because of logistical issues"
Anonymous wrote:It's kind of exhausting to keep track of who are the parents of each kid my kid makes plans with.

You could say it's because phone books are missing useful features for coordinating members of a family, but one name per family, especially a unique name per family, is simpler.



What is a phone book?

Lol...all the PTAs in my town quit making them about 2015.

I have only used an online phone directory type thing once in the last 10 years to find a distant cousin to speak to for genealogy purposes.

If I never see you face to face and I don't have your e-mail, you don't exist. Kid can bring home your preferred contact info and we go from there. Usually only moms are contacts anyway. I make a contact list for parents at off-site birthday parties.
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2024 12:43     Subject: s/o "I had to change my name because of logistical issues"
I had an issue getting on a flight in Italy with my kids. My husband had boarded in front of us and a flight crew person had to go retrieve him for us to all board. When I travel with my kid(s) without my husband I take their official birth certificates.
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2024 12:39     Subject: s/o "I had to change my name because of logistical issues"
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I did change my legal name and I think it's more that I never, ever have to explain that I'm related to my kids or my husband and there are small conveniences related to that. It's obvious to everyone at schools and camps, I can grab my husband's library books,

I have always thought that your last name is a shorthand indicator that explains who you are related to. To me, it made sense to highlight my adult nuclear family. The only time I ever missed legally having my maiden name was after my father passed away, and I had to explain our relationship to the hospital/funeral home etc.


OP here. I mean, totally fine -- but know I never have had to do explain or do anything like this either. ANd it sounds like with very minor exceptions over the years, others who still have their original name haven't eiter.


For example, I will say, I 'need to grab my uhsband's library books' and then tell them his name. I suppose the difference is you say, "I am Mary smith, i am here to get my husband's library books," but I just say, "I am Paul Smith's wife and here to get his books"


I haven't every had to explain or do anything either. We've been picking up each other's prescriptions when we were living together before marriage (25 years ago) - even controlled substances.


Same! My DH always picks up my prescriptions because our pharmacy is very convenient for his commute. A few times I've worried that they will give him a hard time but it's never been an issue.

And I am usually the one to pick up our DD's prescriptions, and she and I have different last names. Again also never an issue.

If you live in a diverse city, people just don't get hung up on this. There are lots of different naming conventions around the world. DC has many immigrants with different approaches to names including family names. Turns out it's all fine.
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2024 12:36     Subject: s/o "I had to change my name because of logistical issues"
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What is up with all these name change threads recently? Is this a troll / bot? What is your angle?


Big Print at it again. They profit from name changes because it increases demands for new business cards.


Who still uses business cards in 2024?
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2024 12:36     Subject: s/o "I had to change my name because of logistical issues"
I don't get why people care so much. My first name is the name my parents chose for me and that is the one I would never change, that is who I am. My last name is something some slaveowner "gave" us. Same with my husband. His flowed better with my first name so I changed. I don't care what other people do nor do I care what people outside of me and my DH think about about what I did.
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2024 12:34     Subject: s/o "I had to change my name because of logistical issues"
Anonymous wrote:What is up with all these name change threads recently? Is this a troll / bot? What is your angle?


Big Print at it again. They profit from name changes because it increases demands for new business cards.