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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Forgot processing speed….that is incredibly fast. His working memory topped out the tests and his processing speed wasn’t far behind. His ADHD brother basically did the opposite of him on all these metrics. That brother is younger and more socially aware and not interested in TJ despite having a better work ethic. He has had to work harder since his memory and processing are weak so he developed those skills. My older son just naturally does well so he has never learned how to work. As someone who never finished my PhD because I never learned how to work, I see benefit from making him learn that lesson before he is in his mid 20s but as the parent who will need to enforce this, I would rather let him glide along as it is easier for me. Twice exceptionality is not fun and I am jealous of those kids that have to work hard and learn to do it early. [/quote]

I am intrigued by your comment that you "never learned how to work."  I have heard a couple folks say this about themselves or others, and I am really curious what it means.  Could you elaborate?[/quote]

Sure. I did well in law school without studying, passed the bar exam without doing a prep course, and using a friend’s prep materials from another year but only looked over them a handful of times. I did fine in my PhD classes, had no problems qualifying past the oral exams, but when it came down to writing a long dissertation, I didn’t know how to organize the materials, and plan out a long project. I had all the data but never got past the literature review.

There were some other factors but those would be what it boils down too.

I have talked to my child and he is leaning towards turning down a spot if he qualifies. He remembered when we lived in another state and he got into an academic magnet for kindergarten. We visited the school and I knew it would be a bad fit. I didn’t know that he remembers visiting (he was 4 still) and that he was very unhappy during his visit at the school. We talked about the daily hours of homework he found acceptable (he cited 3 hours) and I told him I thought it would be more. We also talked about the fact he is excited about scholastic bowl at his current school and it appears TJ doesn’t have this. He is most concerned he cannot tour the school to get a feel for the environment as that really made a difference for the kindergarten experience he remembers. I expect his BFF to get in and his best friend will try to convince him, but his gut instinct is that he won’t be happy there. [/quote]

I'm the PP who asked about "learning how to work."  Thanks for the thoughtful response.  Pretty much describes my experience.  Where do people "learn how to work"?  Places like TJ?  I feel like I missed a memo at some point.[/quote]

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