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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"Or perhaps SAHMs who are happy with their choice aren't playing the martyr at all. How does choosing to be at home make you a martyr? When I hear that accusation, especially from a WOHM, it becomes crystal clear that there are some major insecurities at play. Why else would you make such judgmental and frankly, false, accusations about another person's life choices? Has it ever occurred to you that SAHMs could easily take on employment if they wished to, but they *choose not to*? I'm extremely organized, motivated, and intelligent - as are my other friends who are SAHMs. Your remarks just make you sound bitter and resentful. If you're so delighted with your life, then you shouldn't feel the need to knock down others who wouldn't be happy working outside the home. Right?"

"Choosing to be at home would make moms who would rather work martyrs."

Certainly.  But moms who choose to be home because *that's what they want to do* aren't in any way martyrs.  They'd rather be doing that than WOH.  So good for them for following their bliss.[/quote]

As long as they admit it, that's fine.  MANY SAHMs do it mostly for themselves.  And again, that's fine.  But don't pretend it's to make a husband's life easier or enrich a child's.[/quote]

You know, those things aren't mutually exclusive.  I SAH because I want to and I enjoy it.  But it is also true that my husband's life is easier and my child's life is enriched.  And I'm happy about that.  It's all good.[/quote]

And most people aren't disagreeing with you on the reasons you SAH.  However, my minority opinion of you is that you are lacking in some way.  Either you are lazy, unintelligent, unmotivated, disorganized, a procrastinator, undisciplined, a stress case etc.  All of the SAHMs I know, besides those with DC with very high level special needs or serious medical illnesses,  have any combination of these traits.  
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You're right - that is a minority opinion and also extremely amusing.  Clearly, you don't know the SAHMs I know, who make up a good percentage of the moms in my community.  These are all very accomplished women who decided to leave their careers to SAH, some for a short time, others for much longer.

I'm sure you realize that [b]you[/b] are lacking in some way - probably multiple ways - right?  Do you really want to get into the many ways in which you are lacking?  I thought educated, thoughtful people had put the mommy wars behind them.  You must not fall into that category.[/quote]

It's actually not amusing.  I find it sad for the families and the SAHMs.  Most of my neighborhood is SAHMs and this describes the majority of them.  Some left careers and others never had one. The vast majority that left their careers wouldn't be considered "very accomplished" in their short amount of years in their careers.

And if you'd like to talk about me, let's go ahead.  I don't believe I'm lacking in any ways.  Don't mistake that for being perfect, because that's subjective anyways.

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I'm not actually sure what you're sad about here. a)Women are raising their own children b) DH's earning enough to they can have a SAHM c) The DW's trusting their DH enough to know that he will not try to put his dick into the nearest wohm at his office or d) The SAHM overcoming (or never having) insecurities about their intellect. No wait, now I can see why you would find this sad.[/quote]

Where are you pp, or was the response too cutting  :lol: [/quote]

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