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You may be a doctor, but you're obviously completely unfamiilar with the research on this.  Teaching absitence/reduction of partners doesn't prevent STDs or pregnancy or unwanted sex.  In fact, teaching abstinence/partner reduction is correlated with an INCREASE in STDs and unplanned pregnancies and unwanted sex. (Probably because people say they aren't going to have sex, dont plan for sex, and then have sex anyway.) Teaching people how to use condoms, get tested, use birth control, what consent is, and how to say "yes" or "no" without shame is associated with a descrease in STDs, unplanned pregnancies, and non-consensual sex.

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The request for sex is made because there is an expectation that there will be a [i]yes[/i]. So if there were more [i]no [/i]answers, IOW if [i]no [/i]became more common, there would be fewer requests. 
No one on this thread has said that sex ed or access to condoms should be restricted. Not one person has said that. 
The abstinence approach was done with the Sarah Palin crowd and we know that it can fail. Does not always fail, but can fail. 
There is nothing wrong with sex ed, access to condoms , [i]and[/i] a culture of [i]no[/i]. [/quote]

97% of people are not virgins when they marry. Abstinence's success rate is actually lower than the margin for error. Let's stop pretending that that is a reasonable goal. It isn't nor has it ever been. People have sex when they decide they are going to have sex. All we can do it provided them with the best information we can. So far, we are failing in this respect.[/quote]

When they decide is the operative term. Not when society decides, or when the overly pushy partner decides. Face it, a ton of people have low self esteem, little self respect, no confidence, and people will prey on them. Getting a lonely person to yes can be easy. But we all know deep down what it is to use someone else. [/quote]

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