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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did anyone experience marrying someone who became a real nag? (I keep hearing about women having to chase men to do chores but opposite problem here; you can't feel comfortable in your own home unless it's how they want it.) Wish they could be more laid back as I grew up in a comfortable, clean house where we had this little word called fun and it seems the opposite of what I hear. [/quote]

Bro, this is everyone who stayed married longer than 5 years. What did you think was going to happen?

If you grew up somewhere more "comfortable" and "fun", your dad was just taking his licks and running interference for the kids' sake. A saint, in other words.[/quote]

What? My house growing up was comfortable and fun and our house now is as well. I don't nag my husband because we both participate and can have conversations about what needs to be done and then we divide and conquer. We discussed what kind of a life we wanted to have before we got married and then we executed it. Together.

When we were dating we saw each other's houses - we knew how the other one lived. Obviously kids compound the problem but neither of us has been shocked about how the other one lives. My husband knows I'm more Type A than he is, so [b]I've relaxed some of my standards and he's upped some of his.[/b] I know my husband is better at researching options for things, so he takes on the brunt of that work. He knows I'm better at keeping the calendar organized, so I do that (but we obviously both follow it). In other words, we figured out who we both were, what we both wanted, if we could achieve it, and then we did. So yeah, our house is comfortable and fun (which I feel like I can say with confidence knowing that our kids and their friends describe it exactly that way), due to BOTH of us.[/quote]

The bolded is the key, IMO.

I see SO MANY women on this board who think that their (usually higher) standards are absolutely non-negotiable.

I’m sure there are men who do nothing, but there are a LOT of extremely rigid, controlling women in these dysfunctional marriages, too.[/quote]

+1 This was evident during Christmas.

Suggesting to mentally overloaded wives to delegate some gift giving to the husband, and understanding he can order pre-wrapped gifts for the children, was like suggesting child abuse.  [/quote]

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