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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is not an acceptable turn of phrase.

But I am not offended because it shows the low character of the speaker. Just as if they had said they work FT because “I wanted to use my brain”[/quote]

I mean, its rude.  But there's also an element of truth to it.

I know that's a taboo opinion (albeit a more popular opinion that most want to admit).

Kids are meant to be with their parents during those formative years.  Not outsourced.

I know one women who brags how she paid people to potty train her kids.  WTF did she even have kids for[/quote]

I mean I was a SAHM and potty trained my own kid and would have happily outsourced it. Actually that was the single worst part of being a SAHM to a baby and toddler-- potty training.

No one has kids because they can't wait to teach them to sh** in a toilet.

My ideal world would be working part time (4 hours a day) in a fulfilling and rewarding creative job (novelist, portrait artist) while the world's most brilliant nanny with whom I have a wonderful collaborative relationship takes care of my kids. And then I get to spend lots of time hanging out with them, reading to them, going to the park, and teaching them to cook and bake and garden. But also the nanny is on call so I can also exercise or meet a friend for coffee or whatever whenever I want. Also DH has a flexible 6 hour a day job that he also finds fulfilling but comes home at 4 every day to take the kids to the playground or whatever he wants to do.

In this scenario my kids spend all day with living and attentive care givers exploring the world and being safe and beloved. And a lot of that time us with me (not just whatever we can squeeze in before and after an 8 hour workday). But also I have plenty of time away from them to pursue my own interests and take care of myself. And DH has the same. Also we have enough money to make all this work without sacrificing college savings or retirement plans and not having to scrimp and save.

Since obviously I can't have this I make choices that get me as close to it as possible. I on my had one kid to ease the burden. I took off 18 months to stay home with my baby and then went back part time because I couldn't afford not to work at all. My job is not horrible but not super rewarding and can be stressful. I have a lot of flexibility and get to parent a lot. DH has a little flexibility and tries to make the most of it. We don't have enough money to outsource much and have always had to get by with the bare minimum of child care. Life is far from perfect but it's not bad. I "have it all" in the sense that I have a little-to-medium amount of everything I want, though also a medium amount of crap I would prefer not to have.

Anyway, I potty trained my own kid and it honestly sucked and I would have happily let imaginary nanny do it instead![/quote]

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