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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Most women dated in HS and college.  Do they really need to keep dating different men for 3-4-5-6-7 more years after college?  If they’ve been focused on finding good partners at every stage of dating, how likely is it that none of these guys was Mr. Right-enough?  Are there really that many women who are setting impossible standards?  Assuming that they envision at some point settling down and raising a family, why does this project take so damn long for so many of them?  I think there’s something in our culture/nurturing of girls that throws a wrench in the works, but not sure what that is.  Perhaps it’s how emphatic and powerful the highly contradictory messages are (such as in this thread) —  they just cause a kind of purgatory of undecidedness.[/quote]

Well here is my first reaction, I'm sure I'm missing stuff, but yes women should have the opportunity to make a career and be able to be financially independent and secure before entering a relationship for life.

I mean do you want a bunch dependent women to marry or would you a prefer a woman who knows herself, what she needs in a partner and relationship to be happy long term.

Being financially dependent on any "Mr Right-enough"  can turn into a disaster for women during a divorce.  Much better if they know how to support themselves before mingling finances in a marriage.

Of course there is something in our culture that throws a wrench in the works: misogyny.  We haven't even had a woman president yet.

There isn't gender equality so women have to be able to be independent before entering marriage, or risk getting stuck in abuse and have a hard time after the divorce as we often get more of the childcare burden.  Now, any of these things could happen if you marry after you are independent, but you would at least be able to come out of the marriage knowing that you have supported yourself before rather than feeling like you are unable to do so.[/quote]

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