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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I honestly don't get the debate around this, except to say that it sees to be a lot of harpies trying to justify their own decisions/struggles.

Divorce rates aren't near as common as people like to say on DCUM. For example, for people with college and graduate degrees, divorce rates are pretty low, actually. I'd assume this is most of DCUM.

Fertility obviously benefits from getting married before 30 (in a traditional sense).

And financial - the BIG REASON on DCUM - is senseless to me. For a 25 year old young professional making $50K, it makes MORE sense to pool your resources: apartment rent, one (or no) car, share food, take trips together, etc... than it goes to try to do this alone or with a roommate. Most young professionals are trying to grow their wealth over time: wouldn't it be more enjoyable to do that with a partner you love, eating in and saving money instead of constant dating?

The biggest objection I can see to marrying "too young" is if a young adult is obsessed with marriage or to immature/inexperienced to see the world as it is and is settling or making a very bad decision. But for most 25-28 year olds who have been to school (sometimes for a grad degree), are tired of nightlife, and have a stable partner whom they love (perhaps one they didn't meet at 12) then why wouldn't you wish them the best and be happy they found "the one" in good time?

I hope my 13 year old DS has an enriching teen and young adult life, and can meet and be with his life partner on the closer side of 30 and they can work together to build whatever it is they choose to build, as opposed to grinding relentlessly toward some emotionally void, ever-moving made up goal post alone until he's 36 or 40.

But your mileage may vary.

A lot of sour grapes/closeted grass-is-greener stuff here. [/quote]
I have to agree with all of this. [/quote]

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