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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote] am not the OP, i am a different poster who relates to OP. I am far from an old lady, my crush is not 10 years younger, he is about 6 years younger which is insignificant. I am tired of everyone acting so self righteous and sanctimonious when it concerns marriage. It’s only about timing anyhow, it’s pure luck and chance that people marry a person with mutual feelings. It’s okay to have feelings for a married person, I am not disordered because of that. I’m not afraid to push social boundaries or norms, my feelings are raw and i have a strong intuition that this man feels the same. Why does a relationship with him mean that families must be destroyed? That seems a little dramatic but society tells us that’s what should happen so be it.[/quote]

Stop trying to cast yourself in some rebel role to justify your lack of integrity/morals.  Society tells you not to screw around with someone else’s spouse/family because it’s a terrible way to treat another person. Society needs everyone to honor the basic human contact of not harming others in order to function and progress.  It’s not luck and chance that the vast majority of people enter into mutually loving marriages, it’s the fact that most people have a healthy understanding of their own emotions and needs.[/quote]
I realize this, and this is purely a fantasy for me, I have not acted on this and I most likely never will. I’m unhappy with my marriage but I need to find other outlets, spend all of my waking hours with my kids, or exercise or work more, anything. [/quote]

Or you could work on fixing your mental health. You seem unwilling to take accountability for that. [/quote]
I have tried many times, had therapy, it didn’t help. I have to figure out ways to help myself, I am a highly functional person, I’ve been managing just fine. Yes, I have my moments but I realize I can’t sit and wallow in my misery. [/quote]

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