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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Am making this decision currently. I’ve spoken to a lot of people who went through this…of people who did redshirt for summer bdays, I haven’t spoken to a single person who regrets it. With people who didn’t redshirt, I’ve spoken to some who don’t regret it thus far but some who do. I find myself thinking about not just now/the next year (she would do perfectly fine going now) but 10 years down the road [/quote]

Will you be ok if your daughter is the first in her class to go through puberty, who expresses normal adolescent defiance when most of her peers are still "little kids"? As someone who went through puberty on the later side I remember feeling no personal embarrassment about that (though I remember lying to friends in middle school that I'd stay gotten my period!) But I do remember the girls who were wearing bras first had a pretty tough time for a year or so.

I myself have a July birthday (turned 5 right before K) and my own DD has a November birthday so she turned 5 after K started, but our school district is very strict on their anti redshirt policy and the academic cutoff is the full calendar year (so all kids born in 2021 will start K the same year). As a result there's virtually no talk about redshirting.[/quote]

This was a lot of my thought process with my DD. She's a late July birthday and we started her on time. Thus far, I'm glad we did - she's doing well academically and she's pretty mature for her age (you can't tell she's the youngest) - but that aside, she's very tall for her age. She is the youngest in her class and one of the tallest. I went through puberty early, she likely will too. I can't imagine her being the oldest in her grade because she already really stands out and puberty is just so awkward as it is.[/quote]
I have a September birthday DD who just made the cutoff.  She's literally the youngest in her grade and at 20th percentile for height and weight, is also one of the smallest in her class.  Several girls are starting puberty now, going into 4th grade, but she's still years away.  She does great academically, but is immature and struggles socially.  It's hard for her to keep up with the girl drama and prefers to still play pretend games.

Kindergarten was very rough.  She got in trouble a lot for being immature and would sob almost every night that she "just wanted to play" and "didn't want to go to school."  We made it through and things have gotten better, but I wouldn't call it easy.  She still finds the social aspect of school to be hard.  I think it feels to her like she's always playing up a level with all the other kids being just a bit bigger and more mature.  She also really struggles with other kids getting praised for being more mature and wants to shine but can't quite seem to manage to earn that praise.  Given that she's among at the top of her current grade academically, I have no doubt she'd be a total superstar if we'd redshirted.

She's a September birthday so she started K at 4 yo and will start college at 17 yo.  Even if we'd redshirted she would never have been a 19 yo senior.  Academically I don't have any regrets, but I do wish that I'd redshirted for social reasons.  Life just shouldn't always have to feel this hard.[/quote]

PP you are quoting... I didn't say anything about anyone being a 19 year old senior???[/quote]
No one said you did.  I quoted because for every summer birthday kid who is mature, big for their age and who will likely go through early puberty, there is a small, immature and likely late-for-puberty kid.  And for many kids near the cutoff there's no great answer.  They may fit best a little in both grades.  [/quote]

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