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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I need to know if I am out of line here.

[b]We always took the stance the mistress was not welcome at family functions until after his divorce was final.  His divorce has been final since early summer[/b] but we still don't want the mistress around and have refused to meet her.

I don't think a family holiday is an appropriate venue to meet her.  There would be a tension there.  Bro is lucky he is still invited to family events. [b] Are we in the wrong for not letting her attend since he is now divorced and his official GF.[/b]  *gag*[/quote]

Well, you lied to him.  You said you didn't want her around until his divorce was final.  Now you say you don't ever want to meet her or host her.  So you are wrong for that.
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I think you should tell him, "I'm still really upset with you for the way you ended your marriage and I judge GF for her role in it.  She's in your life and I see that, but I don't want to be upset about this over Christmas and I doubt you want to bring her to a place where everyone is cold to her either.  Let's give it another 6 months for tempers to cool."[/b][/quote]

OP, I would not say that you are “out of line” you are hurt and acting emotionally. The breakup of a family is an emotional thing. Do you want to compound this with a break up between you\mom and brother?  You did tell him things would change after the divorce. Well, it’s now after the divorce and you have moved the mark. But this isn’t a business transaction, it’s love and hurt. I think the advice that PP offered above is your best bet. But I would change the “judge GF” part to “ you both” We love you, you are welcome to come. We are still hurt and emotional right now so this just isn’t the time for GF….  Good luck.[/quote]

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