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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]His idea of dividing all the family responsibilities:  I’ll do my best and she’ll do the rest.   [/quote]

Yeah, essentially this for us, too. More like: I do what I feel like, when I feel like, and she'll do the rest.[/quote]

Ha!  I have told my husband that he is like the first roommate to move out.  Takes a few of the bigger, obvious things, but then leaves all of the little crap that no one really wants, but which is somehow 80% of what is there.  [/quote]

The core issue in all your marriages is your inability to communicate with your husbands and plan a fair division of responsibilities.

Are you really so helpless that your DH can just do whatever he wants and you accept it? Pathetic! Do better![/quote]

Honestly, it’s just really hard to articulate those things when you have never done it before.  I didn’t know what it took to raise a family.  Like when your roommate moves out their clothes, 1/2 the stuff from the kitchen, and 1/2 of the furniture.  You both legitimately feel that they did half the work until you set about doing the rest.

For example, I have three kids ranging from 11 years old to 6 years old.  Each one needs to be able to get up in the morning, take a shower, get dressed, fix his/her hair, and come down for breakfast.

There are a number of things that need to happen in order to make that work.  Yes.  Doing the laundry so they have clean clothes is part of it.  So is grocery shopping so that there is food available for breakfast.  But when you are listing out chores it somehow seems like those are the only two things that need to happen, when really that’s only 20% of it.   They also need to know how to work their alarm clocks and how to rinse the soap out of their hair, and those things need to be purchased.  They need to have clothes sorted because if something is too small or wrong for the season, you can bet they will be wearing it.  Then when they are, you have to explain why they might not want to wear that.  Clothing needs organized so that it can easily be found, socks and underwear need sorted and purchased....you just don’t think about it until you see it needs done, then you just do it.

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I'm a divorced dad with two kids. None of this stuff is hard. I got my kids out of bed, dressed, fed, and ready for school this morning just like I have done for years. Are you really married to a completely incompetent moron?

And yes I also plan their summer camps and extracurriculars, help them with their homework, make their doctor/dental appointments and take them to them, make them practice their music, etc. etc. etc.

Frankly if I left it all to XW it probably wouldn't get done.
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