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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This post and the responses stuck with me last night. I don’t understand why everyone jumped to camps where either the OP or the twin mom is an awful person. The cynicism and judgement is saddening.

It absolutely is a burden to spend an extra 10 minutes every morning helping out another family for several weeks. Tougher still if the OP doesn’t feel any gratitude or close relationship with the other family.

But I can honestly say that it would be an honor if I were in a position make that small sacrifice to help a neighbor out. Especially if that neighbor is recovering from a c-section or otherwise struggling in the weeks after birth. I’d go to bed sleeping better because I had an easy opportunity to do something nice for someone every day. Every morning already you’ve improved someone’s day - that’s awesome!

As a result of this post and the responses, DH and I talked for while last night about how isolated families are and how hard it is to ask for or receive support. We’re going to look for more ways to proactively volunteer to help our neighbors or the families of our kid’s classmates. We both work full time and struggle with the usual time-money-energy balances, but we have yet to regret any of the small ways we’ve extended ourselves in the past.[/quote]

This warms my heart so much!

We're an isolated family and had an experience where I was the akin to the twin mom. I had no idea that it was such a big favor for the other mom to do (taking my kid to school along with hers and other neighbors) as they were all walking together in a group. My older one did it with a different group and they loved having her walk along with them. I messed that up because the previous parent was so welcoming.

Please just explain your tight schedule and the extra stress it causes you and she will understand, accommodate, and might even be a little embarrassed.

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