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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here-someone said  raising the kids didn't take all of your time. They are right. It does not. What it takes is all of my energy, and I think there's an important distinction.  I don't want to be a resentful person and hate DH, but I know I would become that if ALL of the childcare was on me, plus all of the housework, and to top it off, all of the cooking. DH also travels a lot. Like, a ton. I spent months 2-4 and 8-10 by myself.  And it's my first time with a baby, and it can be hard and isating and menial, so adding cooking to the list-something I really am not good at and do not enjoy-is not something I've prioritized at all, and we've been floundering. I also did contribute a lot financially to our marriage before kids-I worked FT and started a good side business, and as a result saved enough that we will be able to put fifty percent down on our forever home.  I'm really proud of that. I think stay at home parents make a really valuable contribution to the family, but because it is not monetized, SAHMs have a lot of potential to take on more than their fair share of responsibility. I see it over and over on these boards, and I think that is a hard road.  [/quote]

OP, I think I hear where you are coming from. How about this practical solution? Your husband should be doing some house work, too, and it sounds like in your ideal world that is cooking. It is harder for him to cook dinner because it makes dinner really late - logistically it doesn't seem to make sense. However, he could do it if you changed the way you guys cook. He could cook tomorrow's meal tonight, and have it in the fridge. You put it in the oven to warm in the late afternoon, or he does the last minute saute or whatever when he gets home. Things that can be done this way are:
Stir fry: cut all veggies and meat and make rice night before. Sautes up in 5 minutes while the rice nukes
Chili: perks away on stove all evening, just warm the next day. Tastes better a day later, anyway
Beef or chicken stew: same as above
Fresh (purchased) pasta and a jar of sauce. 'nuff said.
Lazagna and other caseroles (prep night before, bake day of)

Maybe you could sit down and say "could we figure the food thing out together? I just don't care enough about food to make us a good dinner every night, and I am taking care of the rest of the house chores. Could we come up with a short list of meals you could shop for on the weekends and prep on the weekends or in the evenings, and then I'll put them in the oven for you? And then we can all have a nice meal when you get home."[/quote]

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