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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Come on now. I wouldn't have sex if she was in PAIN!!!! Sheesh. We've had sex twice since #2 arrived. Both times were painless! [/quote]

Sorry, OP.  I just don't believe this.  About 90% of women I know had significant discomfort - even if not PAIN with capital letters - the first times they had sex after childbirth, and certainly if the sex is within the first 2-3 mos.  (And I'm betting I've talked to about 2 dozen more ladies about this than you.)  Either your DW doesn't feel like she can communicate this to you or you aren't willing to listen .  "Painless"??? Whatever.  You guys have serious issues.[/quote]

OK, you point may be valid IF you are my DW.  Are you DW?     :roll:[/quote]

I cried from the pain the first time we had sex after our first was born, and DH didn't even notice.  :( 
I was so appalled and felt so disgusted and angry I couldn't talk about it. [/quote]

Are you the same poster that is claiming that OP's DW was in pain too?[/quote]

No, different poster. But, I agree that most women find sex painful while BFing, at least for the first several months. The same hormones that allow women to lactate also cause vaginal dryness. [/quote]

I have never experienced discomfort, except for the one time I had a small episiotomy.  My midwife friends all confirm that birth interventions and traumatic births greatly increase the rate of sexual discomfort after birth.  I wish more women knew this when making decisions about maternity care.

After my home births, we were intimate again right away.  No problems.  I get more sexually responsive every time.  Breast feeding is no issue, either.

All that said, every woman is unique.  Talking to an understanding health professional (I think midwives are preferable here) would be good.[/quote]

Hey Earth Mother, some of us end up in emergency C-sections and it is not our fault.  It changes your body forever and it is horrible to recover from.  [/quote]

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