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[quote=Anonymous]Freezing is a survival instinct. Your subconscious was just trying to calculate the odds and figure out what to do to keep yourself safe. Don't beat yourself up about it. You spoke up when you had the power to change something and prevented a young girl from being harmed, regardless of her father appearing to be an idiot. You should be proud of yourself, and kind to yourself too. Freezing is a totally normal thing. We're programmed not to make a scene, right? Your brain was trying to figure out how this would play out and if drawing attention to the situation would make things better or worse for you. I'm sorry that this happened to you.

One time I was in Paris for the Tour de France finish, so there were crowds everywhere. I got a coveted spot on a bench while I was waiting for my husband to come back from using the bathroom (pre cell phones). Some smelly gross man sat next to me and started rubbing my knee. I told him to stop, and he kept doing it. Obviously I knew that I could stand up and he probably wouldn't try to physically restrain me with so many witnesses, but I didn't want to give up my seat or not be where my husband would be looking for me. I considered digging into him with my finger nails, but physical combat seemed ill advised. So I got creative . . . I flashed him crazy eyes and then I said, "Oh wow, I LOVE it when you touch me" and I smiled like a deranged person. After a beat he registered that this wasn't going how he planned and he muttered "crazy girl" and ran away. Of course, if I had been somewhere more isolated I would have had to make different calculations. This is what it is to be female. I tell my daughters that if they are in a similar situation, they should start gagging and yell, "I'm going to vomit!" because creepy a-holes want to creep but they also don't want to get thrown up on. It's also a good segue to getting up and going to the bathroom, where you can ask for help. The reason I talk them through this is because freezing is the natural first response. Your instincts take over to make sure you come out alive.

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