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[quote=Anonymous][img][quote=Anonymous]I'll tell my story. I was 22 and completely love bombed by a guy who was 30. He was wealthy and enjoyed spoiling me. I was naive and thought he was single. The apartment that he brought me to wasnt his full time place but you'd never know based on how lived in it looked. He had a job where having to cancel last minute or having to work on the weekends was an easy and believable excuse. In the 6 months before I found out, I met coworkers and friends (though looking back they were clearly the type to encourage his behavior). We even went on a 10 day vacation

When I found out he was married I completely fell for the whole "shes evil" "shes making getting a divorce so hard" etc lines. And I hated her. I didn't wish anything bad on her but I genuinely hated her and her inability to let him go.  I believed every single lie he fed me.

Well, eventually she found out. We had been together for just under a year.  I got several nasty Facebook messages from her and her friends as well as confirmation she wasn't the evil C that he'd made her out to be. After I finally accepted the situation for what it was, I felt so guilty.  I never responded to her. I deleted all socials for awhile because I was afraid of them contacting me again. Even when I ended things, he still tried to convince me he was innocent in all of it.

I got therapy (well my best friend insisted on it) before I got into another relationship because I knew I had to work on my own issues with how easily I believed all his lies.

I'm 37 now and happily married. I have no idea how things turned out for them. I hope she divorced him because looking back now I can see how narcisstic and toxic he was. [/quote]

That’s what I’m talking about—hating a woman you truly don’t know and know nothing about—only that she’s married to the guy you are banging.  Like the op, you were young and naive and fooled.  This is different then these people on websites and actively looking for married men.[/quote]

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