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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Detach from any emotions or normal expectations of him. [/quote]

This is not possible in a marriage. What you describe is a roommate situation. That's not what I want. I'm trying to save my marriage if it's possible. [/quote]

Why does this burden have to fall squarely on your shoulders?  He's presumably an equal partner in this relationship and he's not pulling his weight.  He doesn't care, but likely enjoys the status that being a married/family man affords him at work.  Why prop up his ego for nothing in return?[/quote]

She already realizes the above and agrees. We all do.

Then what? Are kid involved - that gets hairy fast with a solo ASD parent.

She says she loves him. Does she love him him, or the idea and status of being married and having a warm body in the house? Or fear of change? Or loss of self due to being married 25 years to someone who doesn’t take an interest in her or life?

She wants a game plan. Lots of posters gave her one. But the happy marriage one will look differently it will be Happy OP, with him tagging along longer or separate.  [/quote]

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