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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"Since SAHMs are so lowly to you, perhaps you WOH because the work of SAHM and the child care providers you love and defend so dearly is beneath you. snooty, snooty, snooty.... "

In part, yes. Another key reason is that my working allows me to tell DH to go jump in a lake.  My mother, and my grandmother before her, were frustrated at times with their lack of "hand" in their marriages.  My DH can't make any decisions without my concurrence, because I make more than half the money. He can't just come home one day and say the family is moving because he took a new job. He can't make major purchases without my say so. We have a real partnership, not based on benevolence or emotion.[/quote]
Partnerships of the sort that you described are born out of respect and yes, emotion about each other, and not out of the fact that all checks require two signatures.  It's kind of sad that you feel your husband can't make major purchases or decisions only because he physically can't, and not because loving spouses do not do that to each other.  I don't get why you find this brag-worthy.

What allows you the option of telling your husband to jump in a lake is not the fact of you working. It's the fact of you having money.  If your money came from your family, you'd have the same option, without working a day in your life.  Heiresses in the 19th century had the same option. [/quote]

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