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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When my children were very small, yes, I had some resentment (not very secret at all).

In retrospect my resentment was misplaced.  What I should have resented was/is the lack of infrastructure in this country for maternity leave benefits.  If we had a good system here, including paid maternity leave for an extended period of time (as e.g. Canada does), parents and children would benefit.[/quote]

&lt;smacks head on desk&gt; NO. You should resent yourself for not realizing all this before you had kids, and  [b]not positioning your life better.[/b][/quote]

"not positioning your life better"

Is this DCUM-speak for, "not marrying a man who earns a lot of money"?  Because if that is not what it means, I don't know what else it means.

My DH is a teacher.  He influences the lives of hundreds of kids in positive ways, and he is a true partner at home.  I earn 3x what he does.  I "positioned my life" just fine.  I would marry DH a million times over again - I would not "position" anything differently.

I have the misfortune, however, to have been born and live in the only industrialized country in the world without paid maternity leave.  I didn't have any control over that "positioning."

http://www.mediabistro.com/mediajobsdaily/u-s-now-only-industrialized-nation-without-mandatory-paid-parental-leave_b2819

*smacks head on desk* indeed.[/quote]

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